people will hurt you

People will always be somewhere in your life trying to hurt you, whether it be with a song, to say you never existed, to just be spiteful.  Those are not people you love. Love is what you can say yes I’m mad, upset. hurt but I still love you, now go away.  And go no further than just those words.  Love does not talk as if you do not exist or take a memory a big memory and tell someone it needs to be fulfilled when it already has. You don’t play with love.  You don’t play with people’s emotions, it is not a game.  But the reality of it is, People don’t hurt you, you let people hurt you. I guess that’s where the love comes in, because you actually allow this person to do so when hust hours prior you were the only one, you were the person they wanted. And now they are playing your song.
Its just life I guess, but you find out that you don’t want these negative people around you.  You want positive, upbeat people who will love you even when they are mad.  People to hold your hand when you need it most or reach for it. Hell, I need that in my life. Not hate, not thinking you are getting even or that you can kill me, inside.  I want people who want ALL OF ME in their live, not just pieces.  I want people who accept me for even my flaws, for when Im not perfect, or I don’t say the right things or do the right things.  Or when I open up and Share, not try to get them to beg me to share or ultimatums.  someone you trust you will always tell your story to, whats going on in your mind, whats going on in your health, feelings.  You will without thinking at all just let it out.
I made a post around 1am for my married friends.:  Funny they got what I fought for for so long, but I’m not bitter or jealous of them, I am so happy for them.  The fact that I could tag 36 of my friends. All happy and healthy, there for their other. Then I laughed like a fool, I once though this was something I had in the past and that I would marry my soul mate and my best friend, my first true love.. As the ole Skipper, Ron Washington would say “That’s just the way love go.”   Some peoople can do it, some people find it and embrace it. I love seeing them have what I wanted to have tried to have, fought to have. But I also know what happened was ‘meant to be’, Everything in our life happens for a reason, sometimes unknown.  Don’t rush it, it will come to you. I no longer try to make things happen, I have learned you must just let things happen. Expectations only lead to disappointment.

Dana Gidner with Kristen Dunnagan and 35 Others

Marry your best friend. I do not say that lightly. Really, truly find the strongest, happiest friendship in the person you fall in love with. Someone who speaks highly of you. Someone you can laugh with. The kind of laughs that make your belly ache, and your nose snort. The embarrassing, earnest, healing kind of laughs. Wit is important. Life is too short not to love someone who lets you be a fool with them. Make sure they are somebody who lets you cry, too. Despair will come. Find someone who you want to be there with you through those times. Most importantly, marry the one that makes passion, love, and madness combine and course through you. A love that will never dilute – even when the waters get deep, and dark”
I know many of you that have this. Cherish it. Yeah you each other mad that side but it doesn’t stop love. I love you guys. You found your matches. Embrace it.

Author: Dana Gidner-Kristal

perfectly imperfect

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