Lesson One:

Dating is new, Look at my history.  I had my ex husband, from the age of 15-24.  From there I was single for about 8 months.  I then met someone and we were together for 6 years.  I dated a little in the time we were apart for a bit, all in more of a safety relationship but regardless.  We got back together and from there I pretty much jumped into a relationship with my best friend next.  So, dating is scary to me.

Here recently I did meet a guy, we talked and seemed to be hitting it off.  He seemed to genuinely care about me and seemed like a great guy and just as I was letting my guard down, BAM!  A crazy situation happens.  His recently separated ex wife appears, messaging me, messaging my ex boyfriend and all of a sudden I am told by this man to leave him be.  I get it, he didn’t want me involved in his baggage and it was to protect me.  But, he just disappeared out of the blue and not much explanation other than what I can think int he back of my head because we went from a perfect conversation to the sentence of “leave me be and move on”  Finding out the next day from my ex “his wife is a nice lady and had a lot to say”  Still uncertain that he didn’t have something to play in it, but It is what it is.  I don’t do drama and it wasn’t meant to be.

I let this person around my brother and sister in law who were the ones I had there when I met him for the first time as I didn’t want to be alone.  (although, I actually was upon the first meeting as he brought me a red bull while I babysat, but I was in a safe place with protection of a firearm.. LOL)

I am in no rush to date and jump back into things.  I am getting out talking to people and they all know where I stand.  We can start friendships and if something comes of it down the line, great.  If we just become friends, great.  I am perfectly fine being single.  I have done so for the past 11 and a half months.  I have enough self love to last me a life time, a partner would be a added bonus.  But it is not a necessity in life.  Meeting this guy was just a reminder of that.

Author: Dana Gidner-Kristal

perfectly imperfect

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