Relationship Goals have become more of just a hashtag in today’s day in age, but personally I think in a genuine relationship they should be far more than that. Whether you are starting out in a new relationship or you are getting ready to make a lifetime commitment to another person its worth reflecting on what makes a real relationship and what makes it work. What goals you want to achieve and need to achieve to improve your love an help it last the lifetime you wish it to.
So, what are some of your relationship goal? Take some time to reflect, look back on past relationships on what worked and didn’t work. What really matters when it comes to a bond between two people? What should you be striving not only for, but to be?
Relationships are not just all kisses and cuddling. Love is much more. It takes work, sweat and tears. And its not always rainbows and puppies. May times it will be a lot less glamorous. It involves commitment and selflessness. When you always talk to each other and others as ‘we’ and ‘us’ and not ‘I’ and ‘me’. When decisions are made they are made together not as one. When you have that, you will then know you have reached true relationship goals, in my opinion.
When I sit and think.. yeah, I do that sometimes, I can come up with several different goals but I will share just a few and elaborate on them.
- Make it through hard times together
One goal should be dealing with some shit together. As I said above, its not all rainbows and puppies, it won’t always be conflict-free and easy breezy. I believe if you can handle what life throws at you, together and as a team, you are laying a pretty solid foundation for the future.
- Have Multiple relationships (with the same person!)
As the Relationship quote goes:
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” ~ Mignon McLaughlin
While you could probably have a dozen relationships during your lifetime, the ultimate goal would be to have a dozen meaningful relationships with just one person.. falling in love over and over again. Continuing to grow in the same direction, instead of restarting each time with someone new.
- Learn what it means to put your partner first
Learning to be selfless can be one of the hardest things to do as you start to get into a committed relationship. it can be hard to learn how to prioritize the needs and desires and concerns of our own and our partners and learn to put our partners first. And there will be times that it may be inconvenient or uncomfortable but we must learn to put ours aside.